Eligible singles are looking for these traits in a future spouse

The attributes top of the list for Britain’s daters are emotional intelligence, financial stability and getting on with your friends.

A poll of 2,000 adults who are dating found they’d like to see someone who can stimulate them intellectually (19 per cent) and has a good sense of style (15 per cent).

Almost eight in 10 (79 per cent) want a potential partner to have qualities they don’t have themselves, in a bid to make the relationship more fulfilled.

The research was commissioned by luxury dating site Seeking.com, looking at the emergence of a new dating trend it is calling ‘modern hypergamy’.

Emma Hathorn, a spokesperson for the luxury dating site, said: “Traditional hypergamy was all about marrying up for financial or social gain. 

“Modern hypergamy, however, is about much more. It reflects a shift towards valuing growth and shared benefits in relationships.”

The study found 73 per cent of respondents believe a ‘modern hypergamic approach’ to dating can contribute to personal growth and discovery. 

As over half (57 per cent) have intentionally sought out a partner who possesses traits or values that complement their own.

And when a potential partner doesn’t tick all the boxes, 43 per cent are now more open minded compared to 23 per cent who are disappointed.

While 55 per cent have been left surprised by dating someone who wasn’t their usual ‘type’.

When it comes to the common attributes daters believe they bring to the table, being a good cook (36 per cent) tops the list.

One in three are ‘active listeners’ and want to know about their partner’s day, while 19 per cent think they’ve got a strong sense of style.

With previous partners, 31 per cent of respondents clashed always or often, with different communication styles the most common reason.

While 29 per cent had conflicting values and beliefs, 23 per cent had different attitudes towards financial management or spending and 20 per cent had differing aspirations for lifestyle or social status.

Of those who have had a change in heart of what they’re looking for, 43 per cent believe they simply know themselves better now.

For 31 per cent, they opened themselves up to new possibilities and found happiness by simply going along for the ride.

While 27 per cent were introduced to new things, and had their lives enriched in ways they ‘didn’t think were possible’.

But 36 per cent of those who took part in the study by OnePoll.com think it’s very difficult to find someone who is a truly perfect match, with interests and values that perfectly complement their own.

Emma Hathorn, for Seeking.com, added: “Being with someone who inspires you to grow and evolve can turn a good relationship into a great one. 

“Choosing a partner who complements and enhances your attributes can lead to a deeply enriching and meaningful connection.

 “A great relationship is one where both people are constantly learning and growing together. 

“Whether it’s discovering new hobbies, exploring different cultures, or achieving personal milestones, having a partner who brings diverse strengths and insights can be incredibly rewarding.”

TOP 30 TRAITS SINGLETONS ARE LOOKING FOR:  

1. Emotionally intelligent

2. Can get on well with their friends and family

3. Is financially stable and responsible

4. Is happy to have relaxing and restful and ‘lazy days’

5. Is an animal lover

6. An active listener and wants to hear about my day

7. Someone who knows what they want

8. Stimulates me intellectually

9. Likes children

10. Has a good sense of style

11. Is a good cook

12. Is successful

13. Is ambitious with work and their career

14. Has an active lifestyle and likes to keep in shape

15. Has a good friendship circle

16. Enjoys going to the cinema

17. Well-travelled

18. Enjoys the great outdoors and likes to go camping and on hikes

19. Enjoys going to festivals and music gigs

20. Enjoys playing sport

21. Likes to read books

22. Cares about the environment

23. Is a good driver

24. Enjoys immersing themselves in different cultures

25. Has an appreciation for good food and wine

26. Has an appreciation for the finer things in life

27. Enjoys reality TV

28. Enjoys going to the theatre

29. Provides advice and guidance on their personal life and career

30. Enjoys going to comedy shows