A young woman took to social media this weekend to speak out about a problem in her relationship — and so far, nearly 3,000 people have reacted and responded to her story.
One woman, who described herself as a 20-year-old woman, wrote that her boyfriend, also 20, “shared almost everything.”
“I like oversized T-shirts, usually men’s medium T-shirts,” she says.
So “they fit him,” she wrote.
Sharing more information on Reddit, specifically on the subreddit called AITA (“Am I an Asshole?”), a woman with the username “Zealousideal-Lie1085” revealed to others that recently, her significant other “Start playing paintball” — and then start wearing the T-shirts I bought. “
She wrote that her boyfriend claimed, “It will wash away” — and sometimes it did.
“He would go and paint his clothes and [then] Wait 2-3 weeks before washing. “
The woman wrote: “He was wearing my black overalls which really pissed me off because I love the way they fit.”
She added, “I told him I didn’t want him to wear my clothes anymore.”
At the time, she shared, “We got into an argument and I said he should buy his own clothes, which pissed him off because he didn’t have a job.”
“I make enough to support us, money is not an issue,” the young woman said.
Instead, she said, the problem was that “he had no qualms about destroying clothes he didn’t buy.”
She added, “I do feel bad for arguing and bringing up that he had no income.”
Fox News Digital reached out to a psychologist for his thoughts on this personal drama.
In one of the most “liked” comments on the platform to date with 6,000 votes, one person wrote: “He doesn’t have a job and still can’t do laundry in time after you play paintball with them? Please look at this relationship more carefully.” .”
Responding to the comment, someone else wrote: “Is this the same as him not being able to afford his own clothes for the activity but being able to play paintball?”
“A lot of red flags here, for sure,” a third person wrote in part in response.
Another commenter who shared his opinion on the platform offered a completely different perspective.
“Hold on, wait a minute. If you can miraculously afford it today, there’s nothing wrong with a single-income household (although I’m 20 and have no idea what this household is doing if it’s not sex work).”
This commenter wrote: “But if he’s not working, he should definitely be doing his part. He should make time in a timely manner to do laundry, if not most household maintenance.”
“Of course,” the respondent added, “it doesn’t hurt to get a part-time job to buy your own shirts and fund your own interests.”
However, this commenter also pointed out that “the bigger problem is not the inexplicable money situation… but the violation of the line of non-destruction.” [the original poster’s] shirt. “
The person added, “This is the heart of the conflict” – and this commenter added that this is why the boyfriend is completely wrong.
Another commenter offered very specific advice to the woman who shared her story.
“Focus on the point,” the person wrote.
He or she then outlines two key issues, adding a dash of sarcasm.
“This guy doesn’t have a job and won’t spend money (even Goodwill/thrift store prices) on t-shirts and other clothing he wants to wear, but will spend a lot of money playing paintball.”
And – “He took your clothes without your permission, took the clothes you liked to wear, didn’t care about the damage he caused to your clothes by playing paintball in them – and didn’t bother for two weeks Wash them.”
The commenter concluded by saying: “Oh let me be in a long term relationship with this person… without a shred of personal financial responsibility let alone any desire to contribute as part of the couple feel free to accept, use and abuse my me Likes, wants to use, doesn’t want things he uses (aka steals/thefts to use), and prioritizes paying for and playing paintball over every responsibility and consideration he should be fulfilling. What a good goalie!”